Men are not the only "villians" in the infidelity game. Nope! Wives and girlfriends are fast learning the ropes when it comes to cheating.

As of today, the top searches on the subject are:

"cheating wife" - 164,560
"cheating husband" - 16,979

Hmmm…what does that tell you?

Maybe men are more suspicious than women are? I doubt it.

Maybe men just need more help is spotting the "signs" than women do? Possibly.

or…

Maybe ladies, it's time to quit playing the 'wounded victim' game and fess up? Not likely!

We still prefer to depict infidelity as a "man's sport".

So, guys, what are the signs of a cheating wife?

The list below is not conclusive. If your wife or girlfriend exhibits any of these behaviors, it is not a "written in stone" indication of infidelity. Consider them a "wake-up call" to you.

A renewed interest in her appearance.

• Did you notice the new clothes?
• Sexy new undergarments?
• The new hairstyle?
• The freshly manicured fingers and toes?
• The new perfume?
• The weight loss? She's been going to the gym you know…you didn't?

See, that's the thing, you got complacent about your wife and stopped looking, but someone else is!

She spends more time away from home.

• Have you wondered why the sudden interest in taking night classes?
• How about working late? You did notice that because supper was late right?
• Does a "night out with the girls" ring any bells? You were busy watching football, so what?

A change in her overall mood.

• She may have become quiet and broody. When this happens, she is often evaluating all of the negative aspects of your relationship in an effort to justify her new one.
• On the other hand, she may become happier, more outgoing and attentive to you. And sex? Wow! When did she learn to give a blow job like that? That's a good thing right? It is if you acknowledge the change. It may just save you. She may be trying to overcompensate out of guilt. But…she may be offering you "one last chance" to pay attention before life as you know it, comes to an end.

She has acquired the "tools of the trade".

• Her purse can hold a whole "other life" and is seldom out of her reach. You didn't know she had a cell phone in there did you? Birth control pills? Passwords to dating sites? Photographs? A separate bank account? Wow!
• She spends much time on the computer, always with an extra browser open to switch to just in case you walk in the room. You probably won't though, you are busy drinking a beer and watching the baseball game.
• "Insomnia" is treated with web-surfing not television. Chat rooms and secret email accounts are her main focus.

She may have developed some new interests.

• Since when does she like going to the theatre?
• Shrimp scampi and rice pilaf, for supper? What is that? Where are the meat and potatoes?
• And what's up with the 101 romantic love songs CD? You thought she liked country.

She may have developed some "disinterests" as well.

• Mainly, in having sex with you. Well you weren't getting much before you say, but now, there's none! A woman will often try to be "faithful" to her lover.
• She doesn't show much interest in planning for the future anymore. Her mind is on a whole other future.
• She doesn't bug you anymore about being away too much. Your nights "out with the boys" are perfectly okay with her. What's up?

"What's up" is that somewhere along the way, the two of you lost touch with each other. A communication break down and complacency has led her to believe that you do not value her anymore.

• When was the last time that you actually had a conversation with your wife?
• When was the last time that you made her feel that her opinion mattered?
• When was the last time that you really looked at her?
• When was the last time that you asked her how her day went?
• When was the last time that you paid her a compliment?
• When was the last time that you said "thank you"?
• When was the last time that you took her somewhere special?
• When was the last time that you bought her flowers?
• When was the last time that you told her "I Love You"?

Now take a look at yourself. Are you the same man she married? Are you still that handsome, outgoing, fun guy she fell in love with? No?

Here's a tip…Never take what you have for granted!

Have you considered what life would be like without your wife? Do you think she may be cheating on you? Do you still love her? Do you still want her?

Then shut off the television, leave the beer in the fridge and go for a nice, healthy walk. When you wife gets home tonight, take a good look at her. If you still like what you see…tell her!

It's a start!

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